Every week I get a lot of questions involving relationships. Some people will find these questions shallow, but that is not the point. The answers to these questions ARE important to those that clients that have asked them. In many cases, they have nobody around them they can trust. So they present them to me. Here are examples of just some of the questions I get:
How can I have a better relationship?
How can I attract the opposite sex?
How can I attract a partner with a high sex drive?
How can I have better sex?
Due to the personal nature these questions offer, I will not be answering them directly in this forum. Instead I am offering some scientifically based information for you to think about. It may or may not assist you with your situation, but the information is valid nonetheless.
How do pheromones affect you?
Pheromones – Elixir or Myth?
Most people find the mysterious ways that our bodies work an intriguing subject. Where would we be without our olfactory sense? Opposites attract; at least where electromagnetism is concerned. But what about attraction between two people? Romantic passion stays active for about two weeks. Is two weeks also the amount of time required to get accustomed to the other person’s pheromones?
Many scientists believe that sexual attraction between animals is driven by pheromones. It has been observed in some experiments that pheromones form the bases if communications among species and colonies of ants. The horrible odor of skunks is a particularly potent pheromone. The perfume industry has capitalized on pheromones as a means to attract the opposite sex.
Biology, chemistry, genetics and psychology all promote opposing views. Some scientists even deny the existence of human pheromones. But findings from Swiss researchers at the University of Bern are making that difficult. In their experiments, women sniffed men’s cotton shirts. The women preferred smelling shirts of men with genetic profiles that were different yet shared some similarities.
Does personality figure in sexual attraction?
“I thought he/she was this kind of person.” Could pheromones drive initial attraction in failed relationships? According to research conducted on interpersonal attraction and personality, a person’s sense of self-security and perception of the other person were found to be strong determinants for attraction. Attraction definitely plays a role in beginning a relationship, but it’s not enough to build long term relationships.
So should I stop trying to become attractive?
Work on all aspects of your health: physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. Would you want to spend time with a person who feels insecure? Probably not! But putting on an act to attract someone will ultimately cause disappointment to both of you. Only when you are true to yourself can you harness your attractiveness to others.
Integrity and Wellness – the Healing Power of Truth
Make up a list of the qualities that develop or support your integrity. Don’t use others’ beliefs as your benchmark. Dig deep inside yourself and discover your own values.
Integrity Does Have One Common Theme – Truth
Once you have developed your list, I want you to “embrace your truth.” Come to terms with who you are. Appreciate the journey you have experienced to date and the lessons you have learned. Remember, the obstacles you have encountered have molded you into the person you are today.
Be honest with yourself. That’s how you build integrity. Embracing your truth and rejoicing in your journey does not mean broadcasting your innermost secrets publically. In fact, this is an exercise that shouldn’t be shared. In doing this exercise in discovering your integrity you will find and embrace the marvelous human being you are.
You will likely view the world differently and treat others differently as well. This is a good thing. Remember, under the Law of Attraction, how you treat others will be reflected back onto you!
The Impact of Integrity on Your Health
Your body, mind and spirit become weak and STRESSED when you don’t know your truth. It’s living a lie. You lose integrity and toughness and become vulnerable to Dis-Ease (literally NOT being at ease; translated as “disease.”) When your body is under stress, you aren’t as effective or efficient. By contrast, when you “live your truth” and start embracing the person you are, you gain resilience and strength. You ward off disease and become healthier overall. This doesn’t guarantee you will never get sick, but if you do catch a cold or the flu, your illness will be short-lived.
This Is What You Gain By Having Your Integrity
When you gain integrity, you also gain momentum you can use to achieve what you want. Your health will rebound new found energy.
When my clients start working with me to gain the objectives of improving their life, one of the first things I ask is, “How many people have direct influence over your life, such as your spouse, children, friends, relatives, etc.?” This lays down a specific directive for my client to assess.
Why should you care? These are the same people that have been influencing you throughout your life. How do you think they will react to you making significant change in your life without consulting with them first? Some will think you are leaving the fold. Others will take steps to put you back into ‘your box’, so they do not need to make changes in their expectations of you.
The Path of Self-Improvement
When you first start on the path of self improvement, you will usually start alone; and most likely you will continue to walk this path alone. It is a very personal experience. Have you ever wondered why? I don’t often refer to songs, but there is one song that should be your mantra when you set out on the path of self improvement. The song is, “I Walk Alone” by Green Day. The lyrics fit the circumstances perfectly.
Once you really get moving along your path, you will become excited with your progress. Of course you will feel inclined, even passionate, to tell others. This new way you have adopted is making you feel great! So, should you suggest to your partner that he or she should be making changes likewise; maybe similar changes to the ones you have made?
Just because you are making positive changes in your life does not mean that anyone else wants to. Most likely they will consider in an insult if you suggest that they follow a similar course of action. Some may believe you think less of them if they choose not to do what you are suggesting.
An Example Aside:
I am blessed with accumulating a tremendous amount of valuable information. Recently, I had the opportunity to help a friend that has a progressive cancer. He has everything and everyone to live for. He has a worthwhile life – better than most people. Without him asking, I provided him with some specialized information, so that he has options to live longer and healthier. I gave him this information without expectation that he would ever read it, or do anything about it. When I gave it to him, I even told him that, “I did not expect him to do anything with it. But it was there for him if he chose to.”
It is unfortunate that he has chosen not to get around to it. It saddens me.
People don’t change People,
Crisis Changes People
Moral Support vs. Standing Alone
If you get moral support from those around you, feel blessed. Most people must walk their path lonely, and without support. Once in a while you may meet someone that is on a similar path as you; a kindred spirit. This is the Law of Attraction at work. Often these are the best people to be co-supportive with. Look for these people to appear. It is nice to find a friend while traversing adversity.
You may think my choice of the word “adversity” may be a negative way of thinking about doing something positive for yourself. Please take a moment to think about why we are driven to improve ourselves to begin with. Our dissatisfaction in ourselves is the reason why we pursue to improve our life. If we were not dissatisfied, there would be no reason to do anything in that direction. There are 2 specific rules here:
The need to change is greater than the burden to stay the same
The only constant in life is CHANGE
But you already know that people do not like change and resist it. It is in our nature. The “adversity” comes from the internal battle of contradiction.
Change is Inevitable
Benefit of Change
There is Benefit for you when you do things of your own accord, and without the coddling support you may wish you had. When you take on the risk, and potentials of both failure and success, it gives you a great sense of self-worth and feeling of accomplishment when you succeed. In reality, when you take on the risk for yourself, you will always put more effort into achieving success. Thus you are more likely to succeed. You are now confident to move forward and take more steps along your path.
On the other hand, if you are hand-fed and coddled through the experience, you will not have the opportunity to gain that sense of accomplishment; your reward for facing the struggle.
My recommendations for you, is to understand the pitfalls and proceed with “eyes wide open”. At least this way you will not be deterred from your path when the wolves are snapping at you. At times you may even feel that you have made a mistake by wanting to improve yourself. That is just your old resistance coming to the forefront. Your biggest battles will be waged within first. Once you overcome those battles and your older self, nothing can stand in your way to ultimate success.
Good Luck. The road of self-improvement is a rocky one. Prepare yourself accordingly.
Brain Management Home Study Training vs. ZOX Pro Training
Here is a question that I get asked a lot. Many people want to know…
What is the difference between ZOX Pro Training and the Brain Management Home Study Training?
The Brain ManagementHome StudyTraining came first. When Brain Management expanded into the global market, we were pulled in all directions. We were asked to teach groups of people all over the world. But you can only cover a small number of places. Many people in isolated areas were not able to travel to the classes in their region of the world. We did not want anyone to miss out. We needed a solution. Richard Welch, the Father of Mental Photography, realized we needed the Home Study Version of the Brain Management Seminar. Thus, the Brain Management Home Study Trainingwas born.
from seminar to your home
Since the Home Study Training was created from a very successful seminar, it allowed us to provide a simple version of our core teaching. It provides the right tools and exercises for you to gain results. The results are only limited to the limits of your imagination. The exact same thing can be said about ZOX Pro Training.
Both, the Brain Management Home Study Training and ZOX Pro Training are derived from the same source, the Brain Management Seminar; it was disseminated to 2 rather different platforms. While the Home Study Training is a physical package with CDs sent to you, ZOX Pro Training is a complete Internet package, and nothing is physically sent to you. Even though there are minor differences, we have kept the focus, and results you can achieve are the same – UNLIMITED.
platforms, pricing and distribution
Others have asked, “Why is the pricing different?” When you have a physical product, you must build, store, and service that product. On top of that, there is shipping and other things that add costs when people are handling the product from creation to delivery. The price reflects this. Digital products don’t have the limitations, and we can pass the savings on to you, the client.
Since most of our clients are not really interested in all the things that lead up to the distribution of our training displayed on the two different platforms, they generally don’t think of these things when they are looking at the difference between the two trainings. Both are still available today.
If you want the digital ZOX Pro Training, you can buy it at ZOXpro.com.
If you want to purchase the Brain Management Home Study Training, you can CLICK on this link:
I hope this helps you in your decision making process.
I like to give people something of useful value to take with you to think about today.
information conquers fear
“Fear is like dying of a thousand cuts. The more you fear, the less you will experience Life.” – Shannon Panzo
The only person in charge of your fears and can actually change the way you see fear and react to it is you. You can respect what or who can hurt you. That will never change. But when you fear the same thing, it takes over that portion of your life. Too many fears, and you are not living your life the way you should.
“Superior information conquers fear.” – Shannon Panzo
“Success is how high you bounce when you hit the bottom.”
Indeed, bouncing back is the key. Everyone becomes agitated when they face a down period. Successful people bounce back. For instance, you may be unhappy at your job, but unable to afford to quit. While that’s probably a mature decision now, that does not mean that you are stuck in that job forever, even if you are a so-called older worker. Statistics show that 80 percent of people age 45 and older are considering a career change.
Read the Staggering Statistics
Your secret dream might have been to retire at 50 but unless you started retirement planning decades ago or you are lucky and win the lottery, that’s not realistic. If you are like most of the population, you have very little saved in your nest egg. Most of the population has less than $5,000 saved.
A more realistic goal is to retire in your mid-60s, when Social Security benefits become available. Indeed, 63 percent of the population age 65 and older is dependent on Social Security, friends, relatives or charity to get by, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics.
Only 4 percent will actually have enough capital stowed away for a proper retirement, while 1 percent will be wealthy.
An unlucky 3 percent will work until they are physically unable to carry on, many times because they just cannot afford to retire.
If you are scraping by on minimum wage or marginally better wages, you will probably be one of that 3 percent.
One way to break out of that trap is to adopt the mindset of J. Paul Getty who said:
“You must be in business for yourself. You will never get rich working for someone else.”
What to do…
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This book will also give YOU insights into how you may want to make your Life a nicer place to live.
We don’t know the next time we will be offering this. So you better take a close look if you really want to gain that Positive Mental Attitude you keep hearing so much about. Amazing Truths will be revealed…
These 3 days could change everything. What if you immediately gained the tools to make LASTING change to your life in miraculous ways? Our clients do it so often; they just expect it to happen for them in all of these areas and more:
Positive Mental Attitude
And your Powerful Intentions
You will learn things here you can learn no place else… A complete system that works!
The eBrain Executive Seminar is not like any other seminar you have ever attended.
The class is comprised of a small group of DOers; people that will DO what it takes to make those critical changes in their life.
You will NOT be “Sold” anything. When you attend the eBrain Executive Seminar, you are there for YOU. You are there to learn the methods you will employ to make the difference in your Life.
If you have that feeling that something is missing in your life, you need this. Our training works because you, the individual, modify it to bring about the Best in your Life.
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Put on your thinking cap! It is time to exercise your grey matter again. By the way, that does actually mean I am talking about your brain. I don’t want you to think that I am patronizing you. I just like to let you know what I am talking about before I lose your attention. Another for instance is telling you about “yellow cake”. And since this reference to yellow cake would be uranium ore, then it would NOT be something you would want to eat. (This type of conversation is what you may hear from Sheldon on the TV Show, Big Bang Theory.)
Now that I have confused you as to where this is leading, let’s get on with our brain game.
The Brain Game:
I hand you a pot of gems. The gems are of all sizes, shapes and colors. I even tell you that one of the gems is a 3 carat diamond. But the objective is for you to pick which gem is worth the most. If you do not pick the one that is worth the most, then you lose and you must place the gem you have selected back into the pot.
You have been given 8 hours to study books on all the different ways to grade and value gems. Any instruction manuals on the equipment is available as well. Gemmologists will tell you it takes a lot of experience to know what you are looking at.
I have made this game a little more confusing, because you have over 1000 gems to select from. I have even put a few duds in there, such as a 3 carat sized cubic zirconium. Even if you go by the standard types of valuing, you cannot accommodate all the alternatives. You can start with color, clarity, carat weight, etc. Pink diamonds are in vogue at the moment, soon to be replaced by another color. So a small pink diamond can be worth a lot more than a 3 carat white diamond (I don’t want to go down the track of the different cuts for the same stone. I want to keep this somewhat sain.)
You will be provided all the tools required and a table to sort them on. You will have all of the gemmologist’s tools to determine their worth. There is one catch. You have only 1 hour to make your selection. Therefore, you will either know it or you won’t. I could give a person 8 hours to make a decision. If they did not know what they were doing, it would still only be a guess.
Brain Game Lessons:
Let’s evaluate what you have learned so far:
Critical decisions result in a win or lose situation. It is either one or the other. Many decisions in life are like this. You have one chance to get it right.
Information is based at three levels.
1 Information – How accurate is the information you are gathering? Is it obsolete, or is it the type people will pay top dollar for?
2 Knowledge – Now you have enough in-depth information to be making assumptions and some decisions. You may still have holes in the information you have collected, but it is relatively whole. What you are missing is the experience of applying that information in the real world.
3 Wisdom – You have gained the experience. You can make decisions confidently, like an expert.
Life throws you duds once in a while. These tend to be lessons.
In your circumstances, do you find that you are acting on the fickle whim of others? What may be valuable and praised for today, is yesterday’s news tomorrow.
“Don’t live on your Laurels. If you do, you are likely on the precipice of a fall.”
Time limits cause stress – Unless you ALREADY have the tools to accomplish the jobs in place and reliable, when you are given time limits your stress and anxiety will be your undoing. I am giving you 2 time limits; 8 hours to study, then 1 hour to make your selection.
Most people claim the possible is Impossible, and throw up their hands in defeat.
“Most people QUIT at the first signs of failure, even before it overtakes them.”
This means most people will not even guess on the 1 in 1000 chance of winning; even when they know nothing of the objective. 1 in 1000 is much better odds than winning the lottery. Only the presentation is different. Most people that play the lottery have never looked at the rules.
Winning the Brain Game:
How do you increase your chances of winning when you do not have a clue where to start?
Change the rules! (Actually, change what the rules imply.)
Once you understand the nature of the rules, you can compensate for many of the issues they bring on.
Time limits create a sense of urgency. This tactic is often used in sales. By keeping calm and taking control of your mind, you can easily dissipate the stress.
Perceived loss is deceiving: In this case, you are not losing something you already had in your possession. You are actually losing NOTHING. You only have a chance of GAIN.
The last thing you must account for is the lack of good information, knowledge, and the wisdom to work your way through the problem. Here is the place where most people throw up their arms and claim it is impossible.
As I mentioned earlier, if you ALREADY know what you are doing during the 8 hours of study, and everything you need is available to you to study with, how would you go about your study to make such a quantum leap in knowledge in just a short period of time? Would you use reading? Speed reading? Even if you were really good at speed reading you will still not possess the ability to transcend knowledge into wisdom.
The authors that wrote the books you are studying are the experts in their field. What if you were able to tap into their knowledge and wisdom they possess. What if that is possible? What if you could do it at the same time you are studying for 8 hours, without losing any time to this new objective of getting to know the author? NOTE: I realize as you are reading this, you will be thinking only about the parts that are most interesting to you. You may even interpret things in the wrong way because reading is so ineffective that you will miss much of the pertinent information. You may want to reread this to gain better clarity of what I am presenting here.
Gaining Information using Quantum Physics
What does quantum physics have to do with it? Everything is energy and frequency. Even the words on the page have a meaning that is far removed from your conscious mind. This rarefied energy is loaded full of information for you to draw upon. This includes picking up the meaningful things you need to know, feel, and experience from the authors point of view. Here is your source of wisdom.
When the Impossible Becomes Possible
Most people already knowing about reading, even speed reading, would claim that I have set you up with an impossible task. How could you possibly gain that much information, knowledge, and wisdom to perform well within this brain game? How could you possibly gain enough expert information for you to become close to expert yourself in only a few hours, what it takes others years to do? You can. It is possible.
The answer here specifically is Mental Photography, or ZOXing, enhanced by the support techniques of Brain Management or ZOX Pro Training. BUT WAIT, there is an important fact. Before you are placed in a stressful situation such as this Gem Brain Game, you must be proficient with getting your results from the training you have received for using Mental Photography or ZOXing. That comes with your time and commitment. Your preparation is key to your success. You can use the results of this training again and again throughout your life – for your gains!
The BIG PICTURE:
The pot of gems is a metaphor. You have opportunities, or gems, placed before you all the time. It is your choice which you select, which have value, and which are duds. These are your experiences in life. Instead of spending your precious time chasing dead ends, and things that really have no value, wouldn’t it be better if you had an almost instant wisdom to base your decisions on; to rely both on fact and intuition giving you the leverage you need in life.
Solving a Big Problem:
You go through life. You are given opportunities that you must make decisions upon. Many of those decisions are based on better information that you do not have. Therefore, they are just guesses. Take the guess work out of your important decisions.
When should you be learning this process for your gains? There is no time like the present. It will prepare you for the future. The time for playing brain games is over. If your future decisions sneak up on you before you have made your gains, then you have lost that opportunity, unless you are lucky enough to “guess” correctly.
Good luck with whatever strategy you choose to use in life.
Imagine if something as simple as washing your car could change the weather. WOW! What a world it would be.
I recently asked someone, “Have you ever washed your car, and as soon as you are done, it begins to rain?” He immediately answered, “Yes, it happens to me all the time.” Many people just know it will rain if they wash their car.
A Road Less Traveled
Let’s take a walk down a road less traveled, and explore the possibilities of that one statement, “Whenever I wash my car, it rains.” It is a true statement to most people. (Of course you must have a car to wash in the first place.) Could people benefit globally thinking about things this way? “There wasn’t a cloud in the sky when I started, but by the time I finished washing my car, the thunderheads were upon us.” What if weather could be influenced that way?
Weather in the Public Eye
What is the single major topic that is in the minds of most people, most days of their life? It is suggested if you want to start a conversation, talk about the weather. Everyone has an opinion. Yes, weather is the main topic of interest.
Other issues will come and go. There are only so many stories about famous people, governments, or any number of transient events that draw your attention. But there are none that match the day to day resiliency as the weather. In recent times, weather has been even bigger in the news than ever before. Topics of interests such as global warming, climate change, El Niño, polar ice caps melting, ice age, and the excessive list goes on.
Now that the experts have pummeled us with enough information to make us all climate change savvy, many of their scientific findings and claims have been repudiated for inaccuracy. Gaia, Mother Nature, has easily defeated their flamboyant efforts with a blast from volcanoes spewing out massive amounts of greenhouse gases into the air. It makes human contribution to greenhouse gases insignificant in comparison.
New Vision with Weather:
What if there was a completely different way to deal with weather, as well as other things? What if the human spirit could be harnessed to deal with these issues energetically? Guess what? It has already been underway for thousands of years. I am not reporting on some new-fangled idea.
I am about to take you on a fantastic journey of understanding the simple complexities of the human mind, and how it can be used in global consciousness to change the outcome of events. THIS IS NOT NEW! The same practice has been done for thousands of years by various religious and spiritual organizations to influence the direction of our planet by moving the minds and hearts of man in directions benefiting man-kind.
For Spiritual Reference
Common examples in use are specific prayers or mantras that seek to communicate the higher good to the minds of others. When a group of people create a singular thought, it strengthens the output. The larger the group, the more power is behind sending out the directed energetic message. Again, most of these types of spiritual or religious undertaking deal with the highest good when it comes to global consciousness.
What if we were to use this same principal idea coupled with the Law of Attraction to influence weather patterns? Traditional cultures around the world recognize the “Shaman”, “Weather Witch” or “Rain Man”. This is usually a person that has a spiritual connection with the elements. This person acts as a liaison between the people in need and the forces of nature. Secondly, they coordinate the group of people, or tribe, to be in like-minded unison to draw in the elements needed; in this case, rain.
Drought is obviously caused by the lack of rain. So, quite often in the work to break the drought and make it rain, there may be a rain dance where everyone is dancing in a rhythmic pattern to resemble or entice rain to come. This is not a social gathering. This is considered a serious engagement of body, mind, and soul. For many people their survival is at stake. During the dancing, which may go on for many hours, heightened states of consciousness are often reached, and contact with spirit guides may be sought.
Other people that work with vibrational energy to influence the elements include geomancers, dowsers, witch doctors, shamen, and Tribal Elders.
Now, let’s take this scenario one step further. Let’s paint a picture. As more and more governments are grabbing money from wherever they can, let’s look at how the balance could be tipped by a government charging for or taxing rain. You are probably thinking, “That’s ludicrous! That is impossible! How could a government ever justify charging someone for rain?” Yes, it is already happening. Here is how.
A farmer digs a dam on his property to catch water when it falls from the sky, so he can water his crops and does not need to rely on regular rain. The farmer then sets out to provide the pumps, power (usually some form of electricity), valves, piping, and the entire infrastructure to move the water from his dam to where it is needed. This is a great investment for the farmer and costs him out of pocket before he can grow his crops to pay back the money for the dam. It may take years of growth to pay for that investment.
Along comes a government official that assesses the dam and declares that since the farmer will be using the water to create crops that may produce an income, that he will be taxed by the volume of water the dam can hold, whether it currently has a drop of water in it or not. Then along comes the water department and installs a gage onto the output piping the farmer paid for, to further monitor his use of the water that has fallen from the sky. Therefore the farmer has created a huge bill for himself, and the government is now taxing him for his effort to create something out of nothing.
Lessons in the Law of Attraction
Do you think the farmer may feel some resentment? Maybe he would feel that he is already paying his way with regards to the government. So, for every bit of water he uses from his own dam, he will now be charged; even though the government did not give him a penny to compensate his effort. They didn’t even pick up a shovel.
This next part may sound like self-sabotage, and it is. Since the farmer doesn’t like what has just been pulled on him, he may inadvertently look at his dam, and even the rain to fill it, as a burden he cannot afford. How is he supposed to catch the rain, water and grow his crops, sell them, and do all that work, just to have the government there with bill in hand collecting the rain money from him without them putting any effort in to help him run his farm? This could be setting up such a negative vibration around his farm that it may not rain for years.
So if you ever hear that it is impossible for you to pay for the rain you receive, or even the air you breathe, think again. It is just a matter of time before it affects you directly. You are probably paying for it already at the checkout counter of the grocery store.
Direct Mass Consciousness for Weather Control
It is time to put a positive spin on washing your car during a drought. In times of drought, the government can mandate (That seems to be what governments like doing.) that everyone wash their car on a specific day each month. Therefore, most people will be washing their car on the same day. Just think how many people would be automatically thinking, “Every time I wash my car, it rains.” With that amount of concentrated mental energy shouting out that it is going to rain, the clouds will be driven to appear and provide.
You may think I have gone too far with this. That is fine. You have your opinion. Whenever you carry vast amounts of accessible information, you can flow between the logical, psychological, and the esoteric world at will. The information you don’t have available are the personal results my clients tell me about when they employ it for themselves… Amazing!
Believe that you can move mountains, and you will.
“Wherever you are, that is where you are meant to be, experiencing the things you were meant to experience.”
A client recently contacted me asking about test taking. His main concern was that he did not want to fail a certain test. During the conversation, I gave him strategies as to how to go about taking tests without getting stressed out. This would give him the upper hand in taking any tests.
Failure and Lessons
We got back to the main issue of not failing. He asked, “But what if I fail?” I answered him, “You are likely to learn more out of anything that you fail than learn from passing.” It makes sense. You will learn many lessons when you fail at something. But if you pass that event, you have no reason to look for your lessons.
Everything that happens to us happens for a purpose. And sometimes, one thing leads to another. Instead of locking yourself up in your cage of fears and crying over past heartaches, embarrassment and failures, treat them as your teachers and they will become your tools in both self improvement and success.
I remember watching “Patch Adams” – a movie. It really shows you something about improving yourself. Hunter “Patch” Adams is a medical student who failed to make it through the board exams. After months of suffering in melancholy, depression and suicidal attempts – he decided to seek medical attention and voluntarily admitted himself in a psychiatric ward. His months of stay in the hospital led him to meeting different kinds of people. Sick people in that matter. He met a catatonic, a mentally handicapped person, a schizophrenic and so on. Patch found ways of treating his own ailment and finally realized he has to get back on track. He woke up one morning realizing that after all the failure and pains he has gone through, he still want to become a doctor. His positive attitude brought him self-improvement and success. He didn’t only improve himself, but also the life of the people around him and their quality of life. Did he succeed? Needless to say, as the story goes, he became the best doctor America has ever known.
So, when does self improvement become synonymous with success? Where do we start? Here are some tips:
*Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept YOU?
*When you see hunks and models on TV, think more on self improvement, not self pitying. Those people were selected to project a certain image. Self acceptance is not just about having nice slender legs, or great abs. Concentrate on inner beauty.
*When people feel so down and low about themselves, help them move up. Don’t go down with them. They’ll pull you down further and both of you will end up feeling inferior.
*The world is a large room for lessons, not mistakes. Don’t feel stupid and doomed forever just because you failed on a science quiz. There’s always a next time. Make room for self improvement.
*Take things one at a time. You don’t expect a black sheep to become a goody-two-shoes in just a snap of a finger. Self improvement is a one day at a time process.
*Self improvement results in inner stability, personality development and SUCCESS. It comes from self confidence, self appreciation and self esteem.
* Set meaningful and achievable goals. Self improvement doesn’t turn you to be the exact replica of Cameron Diaz or Ralph Fiennes. It aims at achieving results to an improved and better YOU.
*Appreciate others. Little things mean BIG to other people. Sometimes, we don’t realize that the little things that we do like a pat on the back, saying “hi” or “hello”, greeting someone “good day” or telling Mr. Smith something like “hey, I love your tie!” are simple things that mean so much to other people. When we are being appreciative about beautiful things around us and other people, we also become beautiful to them.
*When you are willing to accept change and go through the process of self improvement, it doesn’t mean that everyone else is. The world is a place where people have different values and attitudes. Sometimes, even if you think you and your best friend always like to do the same thing together at the same time, she would most likely decline an invitation for self improvement. (Be careful with this one. The other person may think you value them less unless they participate. This can precipitate many undesired results.)
Appreciate Where You are in Life
Very few people can be truly labelled as ‘over-night successes’. Either, they are just lucky, or they have been leading up to that moment with often years of working in the same area. It’s a wonderful feeling to hold on to the things that you already have now, realizing that those are just one of the things you once wished for. A very nice quote says, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” We are all here to learn our lessons. Our parents, school teachers, friends, colleagues, officemates, neighbours, etc… they are our teachers. When we open our doors for self improvement, we increase our opportunities for success.
“There really are no failures in life; only lessons to be learned.”